Stressful...

Yesturday had a lovely day out with the kids and hubby... We went by the mall and got haircuts, then hubby got me some fabric from joann's and a jacket from old navy that i have wanted... We then got something to eat and then headed to Sams club to get some needed things, we like to buy diapers , wet wipes , paper plates, etc in bulk...

It was such a nice day till I got home and called my mom... She was in tears again... My brother and his wife were fighting again... I could hear them screaming while i was talking to my mom... It is insane how they fight, they should have NEVER have gotten married... We asked him over and over again are you sure? He thought getting married would make it better... He looks to everything else to make it better, thought getting married would make it better, thinks by taking to me i can fix it, thinks starting to go to church will fix things, thinks money will make them happy... He is living in a dream world and i told him he was... Time to grow up and be an adult...

The fight started with bro trying to get the kids to pick up after themselves, these kids have had no structure in their lives so when asked to do anything its like pulling teeth... but instead of standing by my brother , sil wants to look like the good one to these kids so she lets them walk all over my brother... and my brother is feed up, he feels like he opens himself up to these kids and they just cut him down... Now my brother is not perfect, but he took these kids on, got them things they never had before, gave them a home where they could feel safe... I told him they are messed up and dont expect miracles, their mom is a drug addict and who knows what they have seen...

So then my brother and sil start to argue and then my moms dog goes after their dog... Now the last time they lived with my mom she told them NO when they wanted to get a dog, what made this time any different... They just ignored her wishes and tried to make it seem like a good deed cause they got him from a shelter... So now my mom is being made to get rid of her dog... I told my brother last night you were wrong to bring that animal in this house and if anyone is to get rid of an animal its you... he agreed but if sil has anything to say it wont happen... Puppy can be a bit snippy, he is part lab and a very hyper dog but i would rather deal with him than that spitful mini dobby they have... My mom has alot of animals, three dogs of her own and i lost track of cats, her animals dont like coming home since this dog has come into the house...

So my brother tried to hug sil and give her a kiss and she pushed him away and my brother kept trying to force his affections on her, well sil took this as he was choking her and one of the kids decked my brother in the eye... Sil every time my brother and he fight he is trying to kill her...

Now the girl that hit my brother she is a little nut, i told her she had no business getting in their fight, well it started over me so it was my place, no it wasnt... And you had no right hitting him... This kid is famous for when not getting her way calling cps... She has also tried jumping out of moving vehicles and has used the "im going to kill myself " line... When she does that he takes her to the psyc ward at the hospital... he has no idea if she is serious or not and he isnt going to play around with that... I really hope she joins service like she says she wants too, cause either she will get kicked out or they will make her respect people... She has told my mom fuck you i dont know how many times, my mom tells her not to use something and she will take it right in front of her... She also sneaks off with things as well, these kids have no clue how to ask permission to use things that arent theirs...

My mom is scared to death of sil as well, she is afraid sil wants her dead and wants to make sure i am the only one in control of anything... my sister wont come to visit either cause of an insident that happend too... mom and sis went to get gas, sis bf was left at the house with mj... MJ was playing on the trampoline with all the other kids, and my brother asked bf to help him with something, now sil and her cousin were right there and the older kids were there too, do you think any of them could have watched this poor kid while bf helped my brother ... NO, MJ fell off the trampoline and sil's cousin had the nerve to call my sister a shitty mother... This chick doenst know my sister... How dare you tell her that... My sister is not the best mother, but she is trying , she is divorcing her abusive husband and trying to make a life for herself she is also taking parenting classes to be a better mom and learn to deal with things... Did you happen to tell your cousin what a shitty mom she was when she was drugging it and lost custody of her kids?

So now my sister doesnt want to come and see my mom while sil is living at the house... I will get in touch with her to have a talk with her... She will not cower to sil... I stired the pot yesturday myself... I gave my mom two cards, one for grandparents day, and one just to make her giggle but inside i wrote, i love you we might not always agree but i will always be there for you and in the end come hell or high water i will be there but i dont expect that time any time soon cause i cant imagine my life with out her, and also no one speaks for me, and you will not die alone... my mom left the cards on the table , well sil who says she never reads my moms mail, is all upset now cause of the card ... Feels i am pointing fingers at her... Well if you didnt say it then you have nothing to feel guilty about, but since it is bothering you guess you did say something like that...

Also found out she threatened my mom told her she would wipe her up and down the drive way, i told my mom if she ever says that again that i will kick her ass up and down the drive way and i will be right over to do it... My mom is 66 yrs old, you dont threaten her when she is giving you a place to live... She likes to throw things in your face if my brother helps my mom, lets face it , my brother owes her... So a little help here and there should not be thrown up all the time... They borrowed 800 bucks from my mom, bro did a few things so i think she took 700... Sil was pissed off that he had to pay it back... This comes from the girl that made my brother pay her back for the used truck she bought him...

She also wont let him use the computer she got, so he told her she cant use his car now, she then threatened to cancel the insurance, he said do that and you owe me one thousand dollars for the payment i just made... I dont know how they live like that... They are married they should be working together not keeping track on what monies are being put out... Its horrible... I told my brother, hubby took me out, we had lunch, he paid for my haircut, got me a jacket, etc but he doesnt expect anything back... If i was in bro's place i would have NEVER gotten married... I think they should get a divorce and walk away... I dont see how they will make it work without killing one another...