I just got off the phone with my sister.. she wanted to tell me my mom might be coming home tomorrow which i all ready knew... We got to talking about a few things and she brought up the ring my mom gave her on her wedding day to sperm donar... my sister asked about it and my mom told her not to worry about it... I dont like to lie and i felt bad hurting my sis but i told her the truth that the ring she gave her, which was my moms wedding set and the wedding set that was my aunts that i thought i would get on my wedding day for my something old, she pawned... Beautiful antique rings she got 600 bucks for that where worth a few grand... She needed cash for a little trip she made to see my brother she said when he worked at the camp... I was so mad when i found out what she did... I always wondered why she never gave them to me on my wedding day and she was clueless on letting me borrow something to walk down the isle with... I cried my eyes out the morning of my wedding, I was hysterical when I called rich... He called his mom and told me she would see me with something special... My mom sent over this crappy ring little while later but the damage was done... Hubbys mom let me wear a nice strand of pearls... What did my mom say when she saw me... "Where did you get those? are those my pearls?" No mom rich's mom brought them for me to wear for something old and borrrowed since I was so upset... So not only did my mom upset me, she then thought I stole from her... So now my sister is a little pissed at my mom... I know why she took the set back, she was afraid my sister would sell it... She always needed money... And who turns around and does it, my mom...
So sis and I had a long talk and she tells me how my sil talks about me and how hubs and I do nothing for my mom... How we dont go over and help my mom... Lets see, when mom was alone, we helped her whenever she needed it... When we could do it we gave her extra cash as well... Whenever she needs something now we do it for her... When hubby does the snow blowing he doesnt just do here, he does it all... We pay the bills over here on time so mom doesnt have to rent to anyone eles who wont take care of the place or let it sit vacant... Cause If my brother lived here, he wouldnt pay the bills... I pay the renters insurance over here, I pay for the cell phone my mom has that they couldnt do for her but could do for sil kid, who sil mother gave the phone to her son and he ran a bill up that i dont think they paid... When my mom needs a ride I do it...
What does my brother and his wife do? They dont work, either of them... They have no kids to take care of... The freeload off of my mom, they dont pay her rent... The eat her food and dont replace it... The run up the bills and dont help her pay them... When my mom asks a favor it takes my brother days, weeks or over a month to do things... My brother has borrowed money and not payed it back and now my sil thinks my mom is the bank too... My mom was happy with them not being there, they think she was lonely, she wasnt and wishes for those days now... My brother got back payment from ssi, about 19,000.00 he blew it less than a month I think... He bought himself a new car, he didnt pay for it in full so he does have a car payment, because of that they cant afford to live on there own cause they wont make their bills... They cant pay my mom money but they go out all the time, have money for cigarettes go out to eat, etc... They keep bringing home animals and my mom winds up taking care of them, paying for the vet bills or being guilted into paying vet bills... My mom feeds their animals as well as her own, and even when they left last time, they left their three cats there... I keep telling my mom to stand up for her self she is an adult but my brother likes to guilt her into things, my sil is just a bully and wont do it in front of me for me to see how she treats my mom but I so wish i would see it... And even when my mom tells him no my brother will nag my mom and nag her to the point of driving her nuts so she gives in... My brother is a DICK... This is something that has been bothering me as well cause I keep my mouth shut cause everything I hear is from others... I told my mom today if he has something to say and same for sil have the balls to say it to my face... Dont bitch to my mom cause your too chicken shit to say it to me... And that I am going to say to my brother... I so want for him to tell me what I dont do, so I can tell him all he doesnt do and how he freeloads off my mom, he is 34, and he needs to start acting like a man...
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I am so sorry babe.
Wow, I'm so sorry. What a horrible situation to be in. I feel terrible for you. I do hope that it gets better.
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