Sunday, June 01, 2008

Dazed and Confused....

Thats how I have been feeling lately... Hubbys sister just found out this past week that her husband has been cheating on her with a 22 year old... I still cant believe it... He was the last person I ever thought would do something like this... They have been together a really long time, got married finally about 2 years ago and have two beautiful children... When I saw my MIL she said they were going to try and work things out but when his other sister was over she told me its still kinda iffy... Sounds like he wants his cake and eat it too... Says he wants to work it out but then says things like I havent told her yet that its over and then makes other comments to sil like well if things dont work or if you dont come back do you have a place to go? Hubbys other sister is hoping he just tells her its over so S can get on with her life... I think its just going to be a big mess and even if they do work things out I can never look at him in the same light... I was glad that S told her MIL and FIL what their son did... Just shows you can be religious as you want but that doesnt mean your a good person... Ive always kept my beliefs to myself in fear of being preached to... I did however tonight come out of the closet to his other sister, but she all ready knew... So that feels good that I dont have to hide things from her... I just dont understand the whole cheating thing, its one thing to do when your dating but after your married its different... I think its like what will smith said in todays society there are too many outs, like divorce... Take away the outs dont go into well if it doesnt work we can always get divorced... I know there are exceptions for that like abuse, etc... I think people forget that people grow, and change and when they change people cant except the different person... I dont know anymore, I just hope this whole thing isnt as messy as i feel its going to be...

1 comment:

H.R.M. Queen of the Universe said...

Unfortunatly, it already sounds like a mess. He is already asking if Sis has a place to go if it doesn't work out, that isn't a good sign. I wish I could offer some advice or a pearl of wisdom, but I got nothin'. Just be there for her.
My ex-SIL got pregnant by a born again Christian- Sunday school teacher. He has never acknowledged the child or seen her. He says it isn't his even though the daughter looks just him, has the same wavy brown hair, and has the same hearing imparement as him. I agree, just because you are a Christian, doesn't mean you can't be a scum bag.